You read that right. CHOOSE happy every day!
Confession time… I’ll do this now and then because I really hated it when I was looking for some info on things that were bothering me all I got were blogs and websites full of rainbows and sparkly stuff.
Homeschooling 101: 4 kids some glitter and a little glue and we built this 1/2 scale model of the world wonders. And you can too, or feel completely inadequate as a mom when you are finished here.
Depression: Just snap out of it in these 3 easy steps.
1. Jump up and down 4 times.
2. Spin in circles.
3. Kiss your left elbow and right knee at the same time.
BAM! Done, no more depression.
Unless you are a worthless piece of garbage… now go have a day.
Ok, I might be exaggerating a little, but seriously I’d rather read someone who doesn’t write so well if they have a whole lot of truth going on, than someone who writes really pretty about all the perfect ways to get everything done, just like they did… knowing that either A – they were never really in the same pit as me or B – they were blowing smoke.
Back to confession time. Sometimes I can get really really down, I can be a grouch and a half and I want to just open the front door and scream “FUCK THIS” really loud. I know shocking language, and I won’t use it often, but I want to be honest. I’m not perfect, I’m not always perfectly happy, and I don’t always make my family happy, there are times when my husband would like to throttle me. That IS life.
This week was kinda rough. I got sucked into some arguments with people who are “perfect parents” over the gorilla fiasco. Some spoiled little snot raped a girl while she was passed out and his “daddy” wrote that he shouldn’t be punished for “20 minutes of action”. A beautiful young woman killed herself because her “friends” took a video of her in the shower and shared it on social media. And today we have the story unfolding of a young man who killed a young woman because she broke up with him. These are YOUNG people. And it’s sad. So how do we find happy when we are swamping in the muck?
WE CHOOSE to wake up every day with the idea in our heads that we will be happy. We are going to live our lives to the best of our ability, smile at our kids, say something nice to the person who rings up our groceries at the store – even though we hate grocery shopping. We are not going to open the front door and scream expletives for all the world to hear. We are going to choose to be happy, to find our purpose, to live the gift God gave us.
And we are going to WORK at it. We are not going to just let life happen to us, we are going to WORK at being purposeful about our life.
And some days, it’s not going to work, we are going to find ourselves grumpy anyway, and depressed, and hopeless – STOP right there, because it is NEVER hopeless, NEVER!
So stop when you feel down, off, wrong, hopeless, depressed… and tell yourself that it is not hopeless. Check that little girl in the mirror… and copy her. Don’t just snap out of it, but sit down, read some bible verses or inspiration, take a breath, take inventory of what you are really feeling/doing. If you need help – GO GET IT! Don’t think “oh I’ll be fine…” sometimes we need someone else to kick us in the fanny or give us something to straighten up those chemicals that are all twisted up in our brains. And while all that is going on CHOOSE to be happy. Choose it 1 million times a day if that is what it takes.
As for the rest of the stuff going on in the world. Open up the front door, take a look at the world around you, say a prayer for all those involved in the “stuff”, ask forgiveness for having warm and fuzzy feelings about how the hardened criminals might show the new guy with the baby face some appreciation. Yeah, that wasn’t nice of me. So ask forgiveness and then leave it all to God and go back to your day.
Because here’s the thing… I might not be saving the world, but I’m trying to raise some kids so that they know better than to think that just because a girl gets way too drunk that gives them the right to go on and have sex with them behind a dumpster. I’m trying to raise up some kids that will do everything they can to make their little corner of the world a better place. I can’t do that if I’m over here yelling the F-bomb out the door. And kids or no kids – you have your own little corner of the world too… and it really is your job to go out and do the best you can at making your little corner a little better.
And just in case you need a little more proof there is this little tidbit,
just let it sink in.
“In spite of everything, I still believe people are really good at heart.”
—Anne Frank, The Diary of Anne Frank