What are your weeds?
What are your flowers?
Are you in so deep you can’t see the flowers?
Let me throw out some hard truth today.
There will always be weeds.
Even when you feel like you finally have it figured out.
Maybe, ESPECIALLY, when you feel like you finally have it figured out.
Here’s the good news.
The more you try, the easier it is to focus on the beautiful flowers.
Let’s do some work today, shall we?
Think about your roles.
Mom, wife, daughter, sister, teacher, business person, homemaker, caregiver, child of God…
you get the idea.
List them out.
Now think about the weeds that have been blocking the sun.
Not enough time, misbehaving kids, chaos in the house, not enough time with the husband,
the curriculum you bought for the year is not quite working out,
all the kids need help at the same time,
the little one is a distraction to the other kids,
the oldest one that isn’t in school (but not quite out on his own) needs to talk to you,
appointments, your throat hurts, your eyes won’t focus,
you are exhausted, there isn’t enough coffee on the planet, money is tight,
you wanted to work on some other things while the kids were doing their school work,
they should be able to do it for a time without you, right?
Take your pick or add your own.
I had some of those today.
Not all of them, but some.
What???? But you are here telling me you can help me get out of the muck!
How does that work?
Here is how it works.
I’m human. I’m in the mess, every day.
Where before, when I was buried in the muck,
I would have let the day get to me and beat me down.
I shut off my training to listen to my son, who is done with school but not quite out on his own, tell me about his job. The one he worked until WAY after I went to bed. And he was talking to me while he got ready to go to the next job. Because the training is important to me, but knowing that these conversations are coming to an end soon allows me to see that the conversation is the flower here.
The training, if I allowed it to be more important than this conversation,
would be the shadow of the weeds.
I struggled with frustration as:
One kid was asking me about a word problem for his math.
(I hate word problems and have to draw them out to get them a lot of the time)
One kid was asking me about her reading.
The littlest one NEEDED me to critique her letter to her army brother
because it HAD to be sent today or he JUST WOULDN’T get it in time.
(I’m not sure, in time for what, but it was terribly important to her RIGHT NOW)
Just as the training was getting to the meat of what we were supposed to do
to get our information out “there” into the wide world.
You know, so I could find the frustrated, exhausted, tired, depressed, in the muck,
homeschool moms that NEED my help.
But, today, I saw the flowers. Each one of these kids who needed ME, their momma, and their teacher, and their confidant. Those are the flowers.
The math problem that, when spoken through, sparked the first bit of understanding of a concept that has been lost thus far. Flower.
That my littlest little, so loves her big brother, that this letter was more important than anything else going on in this house today, that momma needed to help make sure it was JUST RIGHT!
HUGE FLOWER! With the sun shining so bright on it that I dare the weeds to try and cast a shadow on that flower.
Take your list of weeds.
Now go find your flowers!
For each of your weeds, I want you to write out a flower that is tucked under the shadow.
There will always be one.
You might not be able to find it today,
that is ok, just do what you can for now.
Keep the list tucked away,
put a notification on your calendar or in your phone for 30 days from now.
When it goes off, go look at your list again.
Either the weeds will not be as tall as you think they are today,
or you will be able to find the flower.
Because from now till then,
you are going to work on not letting the shadows from the weeds
cast a shadow on your flowers.
Write it out, print out the picture above, stick it on a sticky note, put it on your phone.
Keep it in the forefront of your brain.
“Don’t let the tall weeds cast a shadow on the beautiful flowers in your garden.”