Who are you? That is a pretty easy question, right?
Yeah? So answer it. Who are you?
If you answered with your name, your job titles, etc. Let’s try this again.
Someone once told me “you should just be yourself.”
Ok, that’s easy, right? But what if the only thing you know about yourself is your name and “roles”? How do you “just be” that person?
On my “about” page I’ve listed those answers. And it is good to know. But when I am acting on the advice of “just be yourself” those answers to not sum up who I am.
If I’m going to “just be myself” I need more information.
I am a little twisted.
I am funny.
I am a woman who does not fall into the stereotypes, until I do.
I have an odd sense of humor.
I’m not very touchy-feely.
I’m also not cold hearted.
I am not easily offended.
So what do I do with that information?
When I’m online, I pretty much post what I want. It’s my social media outlet, it is a reflection of me. I don’t feel I have to put EVERYTHING on there, but when I do decide to post I have usually thought it through.
I do have an odd sense of humor though, so when I post something I might offend someone. I try not to be blatantly offensive (anymore) but in today’s world people are offended by the littlest things.
If I am to “just be myself”, then I will post things that others might not appreciate. If I offend, I will apologize and then we move on. If we don’t move on, it’s not because I have not fulfilled my obligation but because the other person has decided that they can not accept an apology.
It’s a balance.
And because I have learned my own quirks I am able to brush off the fact that I might be unfriended, or that someone might choose not to do business with me.
And that leads to my being a happier person.
Finding “happy” is much easier when we know who we are, try to be a better person in the areas we need improvement, and not worry about what others think of every little move we make.
And seriously, have some positive conversations with yourself. It’s kinda true that if you can’t like yourself, why would you expect others to? Others will… even when we don’t, but we can’t EXPECT it from them. We need to find things about ourselves that we embrace, love, and thank God for planting that trait in us.