Finding Happiness in Making Others Happy

It is a hard thing sometimes, making others happy.
Because it does not always line up with what would make you happy.
We know this as a sacrifice.
Sacrifice is usually associated with giving something up.
But sacrifice does not mean that you have to GIVE UP your own happiness.
It just means that you put them first,
and adopt an attitude that making others happy
makes you happy.

Moms do it for their children, a lot.
The moms I know do.
I know a lot of moms.

Wives do it for their husbands.
Husbands do it for their wives.
Children do it for their parents.

But we have lost that somehow through the years.
In so many people.
Which is why we find so much pain and unrest in this world right now.

So much conflict. So much contradiction.
People are growing up thinking they are entitled to happiness.
We are not.

Here in America, we have the right to PURSUE happiness.
We do not have even the legal right to happiness.

God has promised that we will find happiness.
With Him.
AFTER, this life.
There was no promise that we would live happy, no pain, no suffering.

Creating a habit takes time.
So spend some time, effort, thought.
21 days.
Pick one person or 21 people or any number in between.
And for 21 days do something that will make someone else happy.
Do it without any expectation of getting back.
Do it tiny or HUGE.
And instead of feeling joy or happiness at the response from the other person
(because remember – no expectations)

And be truthfully and completely happy with one thing.
The very opportunity to do something for another.

In the beginning, you may find that you are only going through the motions.
You might not feel true happiness.
But do it anyway.
Do it selflessly.
Push yourself.
And at the end of each day write down 1 – 3 things that you are grateful for.
21 days.

I would love to hear what the results this has had on you in the comments.
I will start keeping track of mine too.
I have done this. It does work.
But I have let fear creep in. Fear of what might happen.
I have felt selfishness creeping up.
I have even found myself being jealous of others.
It has not consumed me, yet.
I refuse to let it.
For 21 days I will do what I can to make someone (or many someones) happy
just for the sake of making them happy.

Are you in?
I have created a facebook page for discussion on this and other “action plan” items.
Maxine Marie: Finding Happy in the Chaos
lease join me there.


About ~Me~ Hello, my name is Maxine. I am: Catholic and a stubborn child of God a wife (to my highschool sweetheart) a mom (to six wonderful kids that span 20 years in age) a daughter a sister a business owner an artist and a writer Like most women with a list like that, I'm also busy and sometimes overwhelmed. I'm on a journey to be happy despite the chaos, maybe even because of it.

This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. Beautiful thoughts! Loved the idea of doing something good for someone for 21 days and also writing down three things that I am grateful for. I’m in for this!

  2. Just doing one thing that makes someone else happy raises your endorphins and your happiness level increases too. Loved the content of the blog and it’s a great reminder of caring for others – but also remembering yourself. Dx

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