The “happy” dance…3 steps forward, 1 step back

And the “happy” dance begins.
Those back steps, the ones that make us feel like “what the heck was I thinking?”


Like the ones that knocked me back a few steps this week.
Those steps, the back steps, are the ones that take a woman who is finally feeling confident enough, with encouragement from friends and family, to start a page and try and lay out a path to help others find their happy in the chaos, think “what the heck am I doing, what makes me think I can help anyone find any kind of happy?”

You see those back steps, even though they may be only one or two, sometimes make us feel like we’ve slid all the way back.

In the last week or two, I have started to tell others that I’m actually taking the plunge into this, seriously. I had started the layout and was feeling pretty proud of myself for just beginning. Slow and steady because I have other things that must be done as well. This has to fit in. I can’t be obsessed with just one thing.  I was feeling pretty proud of myself… but then…
everything I said or did seemed to be the “wrong” thing to say or do. Like my step back was not just back but a step into something worse.

Boys and red ants

Of course, not everything was wrong, but it started to feel like it. I had taken a step back. Then the doubt came prancing in. And last night I was thinking “I can’t do this. I have not yet figured out “happy”.

And then I slept. And in my sleep, I had a conversation with myself. I to remind myself that it isn’t about me being happy 100% of the time, but about helping someone else get from where I was (or their version of that) to where I am (or their version of that) in less time than it took me. THAT is my goal. And I always knew/intended to continue growing with anyone who wanted to come along with me.  It isn’t about me starting at the top of the mountain, it’s about building an encouraging format so that we (me and anyone who wants to come along for the climb) to get to the top of the mountain together.

Helping others

Take Action!

So today we are going to start with a couple of questions. I want you to jot the answers that come to your mind first, then I want you to sleep on it, and answer them again. You may find you have the same answers, that’s ok. It’s a process.

Question 1
What does “happy” look like?

Question 2
What is my “why?”

If you are going to find “happy”, you need to know what that looks like. The vision can change, it does not have to be chiseled in stone, but you need a place to start. A goal.

And you need to know your WHY. Your “why” is going to be the one thing that you would give EVERYTHING for. Your why will be the one thing that motivates you in any and all situations.

See you next time.

“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.’
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
Chinese Proverb


About ~Me~ Hello, my name is Maxine. I am: Catholic and a stubborn child of God a wife (to my highschool sweetheart) a mom (to six wonderful kids that span 20 years in age) a daughter a sister a business owner an artist and a writer Like most women with a list like that, I'm also busy and sometimes overwhelmed. I'm on a journey to be happy despite the chaos, maybe even because of it.

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