WHY are we here? WHY me? WHY are you here?


Why are we here?

Like what is our purpose? Why were we created? Was it so that God could look down on his little colony of peoples every few days and be amazed by the things we do over and over? Was it a mistake? Was there really no purpose at all?

Why do we have children? I’m guessing not out of some science experiment. I imagine God very much the same way wanted to create something that was his, to give us life and nurture us, and teach us to be happy and productive. But unlike us humans, I am sure he has a bigger purpose in mind.

Jeremiah 29:11 For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope.

Why me?

The next and maybe bigger question we have. Why me? Why was *I* created? This question plagued me. Because I am human and grew up after the 50’s my role was not clearly defined. I grew up in a time when little girls were starting to be told they could do whatever they wanted in life and furthermore staying at home being a mom was definitely not on the short list of things any little girl SHOULD desire.

So WHY am I here. Surprise, surprise… I was put here to be a wife and a mom… AND more, but wife and mom, was where I am supposed to be. How do I know?

When we were younger we said we’d only have one child. He came into the world early, scared the crap out of us and we were done. Just one. About 5 years later I discovered I had endometriosis and not only was it everywhere it could not easily be taken care of by laser. Maybe now, but not then. “Hysterectomy” was a word they used, “must” was another word. Then this sentence “I don’t think it will be possible, and if it is it will take a long time, but if you want more children, decide now.” I was around 28 years old.

More would be in our future. We thought one more. And then, stunningly (to me anyway) we discovered that the endometriosis can and did go dormant. No hysterectomy, at least not then. During this time I was also learning about the reasons the Church says no to contraceptives. And mourned the possible loss of babies I never would know, because of the abortifacient properties of the pill etc. AND because I am a slow learner, and God frequently has to hit me upside the head, after the birth of our second son, I couldn’t take contraceptives even if I wanted to because they began to make me black out. Nice! God 10,000 – Maxine 0.

Once we learned that lesson my body (and God) showed me what it was like to live perfectly in sync with His plans. 4 more children, spaced about 3 years apart, because despite what “science” says, nursing babies on demand can work to space your babies.

Let’s not forget that wife thing too… I’ve given my husband any number of opportunities (I don’t say this proudly btw) to say he’s had enough. We have discovered through the hard times that we have one thing in common that helps us endure – we BOTH have the tenacity to KEEP the commitment and the vows we made.

So yes. Wife and mother. That is why I’m here. Don’t get me wrong, that is not all of who I am, but that is why I’m here. Purpose.

Why are YOU here?

It’s a hard question sometimes to find your purpose. Harder still if you don’t believe everyone really has a purpose. But you do. And sometimes it’s hard to find because, like me, it goes against what society deems important. But God wants us to succeed, he wants us to be happy, he has built a desire for something deep within us. For some it is to be a mom and a wife, for others, it might be to travel the world praising his name in song or deed. We are built with that in us and all we have to do is LISTEN to the small small voice in us that tells us what we need to do to be happy, and joyful while also blocking out what society is telling us we SHOULD want to be.

What makes you happy? What can you really see yourself doing the rest of your life?. What motivates you? What makes your heart smile everytime you see it or think about it? What are your talents? What do you have a natural knack for? Why are you here?

Proverbs 19:21 The human mind may devise many plans, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will be established.

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About ~Me~ Hello, my name is Maxine. I am: Catholic and a stubborn child of God a wife (to my highschool sweetheart) a mom (to six wonderful kids that span 20 years in age) a daughter a sister a business owner an artist and a writer Like most women with a list like that, I'm also busy and sometimes overwhelmed. I'm on a journey to be happy despite the chaos, maybe even because of it.

This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my favorites! Love this piece. I struggle to recognize my first ministry is my family, and everything else comes behind that. I feel so much peace when I remember that “just” being a wife and mom is so important.

  2. Yes, we seem to have addressed the why word similarly. Thanks for reading mine at FMF #14

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